Internal Enslavement weblog http://www.enslavement.org.uk/weblog/ The IC RSS Gadget webmaster@informedconsent.co.uk 360 Thu, 30 Oct 2008 20:23:03 GMT Thu, 30 Oct 2008 20:23:03 GMT http://www.enslavement.org.uk/weblog/177951/ http://www.enslavement.org.uk/weblog/177951/ Thu, 30 Oct 2008 20:23:03 GMT I've never been one to post blow by blow commentaries of my relationships as they happen, and that's especially true when things are coming to a conclusion. But I think it's time to spell out how things are now. The short version is that I uncollared both lili and popi, and they have now both moved out. The rest of this post is the slightly longer version.... http://www.enslavement.org.uk/weblog/173005/ http://www.enslavement.org.uk/weblog/173005/ Wed, 16 Jan 2008 00:07:31 GMT Recently I've got interested in general motivations: what is the most general framework for why people do things? Are people following specific drives imposed by evolution, or is there some universal, such as Nietzsche's claim that everyone's motivation is The Will to Power. But how can that be true in a world with consensual submissives?... http://www.enslavement.org.uk/weblog/139979/ http://www.enslavement.org.uk/weblog/139979/ Tue, 17 Apr 2007 17:38:52 GMT Peter Masters had an outline of this book on his website since the early 2000s and if you're really curious some of these versions are still there on the Internet Archive site. However, he's now produced a printed edition, published by Jack Rinella in March 2007, and this review is based on that expanded version.... http://www.enslavement.org.uk/weblog/139082/ http://www.enslavement.org.uk/weblog/139082/ Wed, 11 Apr 2007 14:37:52 GMT I've been thinking about training this week, partly to write the Slave Training article for the Ownership Wiki. Like the word "slave" itself it has a wide range of uses, from the profound (as another term for enslavement) to the ridiculous (for paid SM sessions with a dominatrix.) I've avoided using the term in the past because of its vagueness, but I'd now like to put these two words to work with a plausible definition.... http://www.enslavement.org.uk/weblog/138420/ http://www.enslavement.org.uk/weblog/138420/ Fri, 06 Apr 2007 19:36:12 GMT I've been away this week and took the opportunity to read Nage's book. It's one of a sudden flurry of M/s books which have appeared in the last couple of years. I think it's clear that it's the weakest of the current crop but I'm going to try to highlight the good points as well as the rest.... http://www.enslavement.org.uk/weblog/136173/ http://www.enslavement.org.uk/weblog/136173/ Sun, 25 Mar 2007 23:37:33 GMT In this post, I'd like to tie together the various concepts and terms that surround obedience in Master/slave and Ownership relationships. Words like resistance, reactance, discipline, rules, submission, and obedience refer to different parts of the puzzle, but don't have well-defined boundaries, and I'd like to suggest a consistent set of definitions and some new ideas to help visualise the various processes of obedience.... http://www.enslavement.org.uk/weblog/132504/ http://www.enslavement.org.uk/weblog/132504/ Fri, 02 Mar 2007 21:14:20 GMT In 1992 "The Man Who Mistook His Wife for a Chattel" was published by Wilson and Daly as part of "The Adapted Mind", a collection of papers which established Evolutionary Psychology as a new way of looking at the mind in terms of evolution, and attempting to identify which aspects are the result of an evolved human nature. These evolved psychological mechanisms each made a contribution to survival and reproduction in the environment in which humans evolved, although many are no longer useful or even wanted by modern humans. Wilson and Daly's paper argued that one of these adaptations is that men take a proprietary view of women's sexuality and reproductive capacity, and that this is the basis for laws and traditions which formally treated women as owned by men. In this essay, I will apply these ideas to the understanding of heterosexual male dominants in modern day, consensual Master/slave relationships, and propose ways in which they can be extended to explain many female submissives' ability to enter an inescapable state of enslavement.... http://www.enslavement.org.uk/weblog/131572/ http://www.enslavement.org.uk/weblog/131572/ Sat, 24 Feb 2007 18:43:39 GMT This week I finished Evolutionary Psychiatry by Anthony Stevens and John Price. I've had this book since it came out in 2004, but up to now I'd only read the Sadomasochism chapter and some of the introductory material. Now that I'm getting interested in evolutionary models for Internal Enslavement again, I decided to read it in full - not least because they discuss social rank and dominance in detail as part of their attempt to explain some psychiatric problems. ... http://www.enslavement.org.uk/weblog/126550/ http://www.enslavement.org.uk/weblog/126550/ Wed, 24 Jan 2007 00:03:15 GMT "Le Lien" ("The Bond" or "The Link") is an autobiographical account of a BDSM relationship by Frenchwoman Vanessa Duries. Following it's publication in 1993, she shot to fame and notoriety, and even appeared on French television, before dying in a car crash in the December of the same year, at the age of 21. I had high hopes based on reviews of the French original, but I'm quite disappointed.... http://www.enslavement.org.uk/weblog/125069/ http://www.enslavement.org.uk/weblog/125069/ Sat, 13 Jan 2007 23:33:33 GMT One of the most interesting aspects of my relationship with lili is the way we revisit ideas from previous years in a new light or with new clarity. In the year since popi joined my household, one of the concepts we've been trying to turn into words is what we now call "Entitlement". This started as an idea to guide property, but over the holidays I realised that it also gave a name to an important idea for owners too. Yesterday, the word cropped up on the "Narcissism and D/s" thread on The Slave Register, and so I'm going to try to explain how we use that word now, and distinguish it from narcissistic entitlement.... http://www.enslavement.org.uk/weblog/123926/ http://www.enslavement.org.uk/weblog/123926/ Sat, 06 Jan 2007 22:07:11 GMT I first read Story of O in 1993 and at the time I didn't really like it - certainly not its BDSM themes. I could see it was capital-L Literature, and I'd read enough modern fairy tales and fables to read between the lines, but to be honest, I was indifferent to it. I reread it twice over the years with no change in how I felt, although I did start to notice some astute observations and quotable passages.... http://www.enslavement.org.uk/weblog/111661/ http://www.enslavement.org.uk/weblog/111661/ Tue, 24 Oct 2006 00:03:39 GMT I thought I'd write a short review of "Why men rule", since I've just finished it. It deals with the unpopular truth in sociology: as Goldberg says "this book attempts to demonstrate and explain the universality (the presence in every society that has ever existed) of three institutions: 1. patriarchy: males occupy the overwhelming numbers of upper hierarchical positions; 2. male attainment, the association of high-status roles - whichever they happen to be in any given society - with males; and 3. male dominance, the association of dominance in male-female encounters and relationships, with the male, an association made in every society by the emotions of men and women and reflected in most societies in the formal authority system."... http://www.enslavement.org.uk/weblog/104791/ http://www.enslavement.org.uk/weblog/104791/ Mon, 11 Sep 2006 20:44:35 GMT Today www.OwnershipFlag.com went live, to publicise the ownership flag and the ownership icons that I posted about in July. The site includes image files in a wide range of sizes, that can be freely used for commercial or non-commercial purposes. http://www.enslavement.org.uk/weblog/95742/ http://www.enslavement.org.uk/weblog/95742/ Mon, 17 Jul 2006 01:36:09 GMT Today (Sunday) I put a page of ownership icons online on The Slave Register, and added them to the TSR system so people can show them on their web board posts (so far - other places in the system to follow.) I think they might be more generally useful too, since we don't really have symbols for this kind of thing amongst the various flags and signs that BDSM/Leather has acquired.... http://www.enslavement.org.uk/weblog/73182/ http://www.enslavement.org.uk/weblog/73182/ Sun, 26 Feb 2006 11:08:56 GMT This is my second draft essay about my personal style of D/s, which I'm calling "Household D/s." Last month I dealt with Roles in HDS, and here I provide a brief overview of some other themes that I keep in mind.... http://www.enslavement.org.uk/weblog/72405/ http://www.enslavement.org.uk/weblog/72405/ Mon, 20 Feb 2006 01:13:12 GMT An "economic" analysis of polygyny has appeared on Slate, written by Tim Harford for the FT earlier this month. He makes the point that polygyny is really a way for wives to get "high status" husbands (ie husbands with access to something that people value - wealth, fame, skill etc), even if it means sharing them: "wives decided they'd prefer one-quarter of a billionaire." This is about the economics of status and desirability, not really about money itself: so it applies to being a film star, or a good father, or a good dom too.... http://www.enslavement.org.uk/weblog/67883/ http://www.enslavement.org.uk/weblog/67883/ Fri, 20 Jan 2006 13:52:09 GMT This is the first draft of an essay about Household D/s, which explains how a household is built up with different roles.... http://www.enslavement.org.uk/weblog/67220/ http://www.enslavement.org.uk/weblog/67220/ Mon, 16 Jan 2006 01:50:32 GMT Discussion of the "slave" in BDSM is heavily influenced by American historical slavery. This is partly due to the prominence of the various US scenes, which have the Old South as part of their national history. The power of the US in vanilla culture also plays a part, with depictions such as "Roots", "Amistad" and "Cold Mountain" all promoting a view of the slave as downtrodden, abused and undervalued.... http://www.enslavement.org.uk/weblog/52690/ http://www.enslavement.org.uk/weblog/52690/ Sun, 02 Oct 2005 18:27:13 GMT Sometime i find humility hard, humiliation even harder. By humiliation i do not mean the verbal humiliation brought about through name calling (i have never been required to endure that.) Nor the embarrassing humiliation of a more physical nature (though i have, on occasions, been required to do that! ;-))... http://www.enslavement.org.uk/weblog/48576/ http://www.enslavement.org.uk/weblog/48576/ Mon, 29 Aug 2005 07:27:11 GMT As far as Sado-masochism goes I don't mind admitting that I've struggled at times with calling myself a masochist. But then there have also been times when I've struggled with my bisexuality, my submissiveness and indeed, my desire to Top. I think its true to say that about 95% of the pain I enjoy has to be delivered in a D/s context for it to transform into the hedonistic experience I know its capable of becoming. As a consequence I always feel somewhat reluctant about ranking myself a "true" masochist. ...