O&P website and blog,
are where most of my new writing on M/s appears. The IE website will stay
online indefinitely to host the IE Essays and lili's writings.
Techniques of Enslavement
One question that is often asked by people who've read the
Internal Enslavement website and
Frequently Asked Questions, is about the
practicalities of Enslavement. What does it actually involve doing?
I believe the answer to that question is simple to state, although
it involves a lot of work.
To possess a slave psychologically - the only way that we can realistically
possess someone in this society, thankfully - the Master needs to take away
the barriers that she still has protecting her Self from him, so that she
becomes utterly vulnerable, and dependent on him.
This means stopping the slave from keeping things back from him (I'm not
talking about keeping important things back - I'm not talking about
here) but it means that over time she is forced to become totally open about
her thoughts, wants and needs. In practical terms, this involves the Master
observing her closely, and rooting out things that are going on in her mind
that she isn't talking about. Having her keep a diary that he will read, or
having her make posts to mailing lists about her thoughts helps with
this. Some knowledge of counselling techniques or "being a good
(ie asking the right questions to draw the slave out) is helpful here.
This means that she stops having emotional privacy, and that she is unable to
manipulate him even in the most harmless ways (I'm sure a lot of us can think
of situations when we've done something for a partner in a relationship in
the hope of getting them in a good mood to do something for us.) She can
reach the point where, as his slave, she can obtain things only by openly
stating what she needs, and asking - or begging - for what she wants.
These changes promote dependency, and this should also be enforced more
explicitly (perhaps by controlling her access to money, making her keep
receipts and account for every penny of her spending; perhaps by requiring
her to ask for permission to eat, leave the room, sit on furniture etc when
he's present; SM and bondage can also be useful for this, since they can
forcefully induce very dependent states of mind in some submissives,
eg trancelike states like "sub space".)
A slave lives in the shadow of her Master, subject to his decisions and
dependent on his whims. If she needs ownership, then by confronting her with
the tangible internal and external reality of this, it
will become real for
her, just as if she had a collar hammered round her neck in a country where
the police returned runaways. And I should stress that the internal work is
essential in forcing her to confront her new found situation: it's not
sufficient that she acts in a
slavelike manner, since that may allow her to
keep the walls up that her Self hides behind.
It's also been asked if it matters that the slave realises what Enslavement
techniques are being used on her.
For the time spent in the Counsellor / client role, it's very clear to the
slave what is happening and why her Master is talking to her that way
(although if he steers a normal conversation in that direction, she might not
realise what he's up to for a couple of minutes ...)
For the less obvious things,
I personally don't make of point of explaining to lili what I'm doing
at the time, although it often comes out afterwards. A
good example of this is when I've put her in bondage: sometimes it's just for
my own enjoyment, but sometimes it's because I want her in a floaty, bondage
induced state of submission for some other reason (eg that she is having a
hard time at work or with family, and that the security she feels in being
helpless at my hands will both help her at that time, and also strengthen her
feelings that being my slave is the safest place in the world for her.)
I wouldn't tell her beforehand why I was going to bind her (that would to
some extent spoil the effect, either by making her resist those feelings or
try too hard to achieve them), but I don't have a problem with explaining why
Last updated 12 October 2000.