O&P website and blog,
are where most of my new writing on M/s appears. The IE website will stay
online indefinitely to host the IE Essays and lili's writings.
I believe that the attraction to being submissive very often emerges
during childhood (reinforced by reading stories about kidnapped
princesses or playing tying up games etc) and in many of the slaves we see
around us this has continued to grow during adolescence and adulthood,
perhaps in relationships, perhaps only through fantasies (including
romantic fiction which has a suprising amount of BDSM content.)
For this reason, I prefer to practice what I've started
to call "Slave Development" rather than "Slave
Training" since I
believe the process of deepening slavery in a Master/slave
relationship should be seen as a continuation of this lifelong
development, and should be done with detailed attention to the internal
qualities and nature of the slave.
It should be centered on the
reality of the slave's character, and driven by it - although obviously
the Master controls the process of the slave's development and
nurtures the traits that best serve his purpose.
I do not believe slaves can be blank slates to be trained however
the Master wishes, since their previous history is always present,
and must be taken into account.
Using this approach, external slave training is built on developing
internal states: slaves learn to wait, patient and motionless, when
they acquire patience, and in turn this derives from an acceptance that they
have been left to wait, and will be required to act only when their Master
decides. External slave training is seen as fine tuning of the slave's
behaviour to suit the details of her Master's preferences: but the
principal changes which occur in the slave are internal.
(The original version of this article appeared as part of the Internal
Slave Development Manifesto in March 1999)
Last updated 27 August 2000.